BULLY vs. LOVE (part #3)
Calvin came back home and told me...
"Mom..something happen in the school today!!!"
with...
. eyes open wide
. high tones voice
"Mom...teacher was scolded the boy but he was not scared at all!!!"
the FOURTH day
he was a bit quiet that day...
i thought he was tired but then...
he start report to me...
with...
. scared eyes
. low and tense voice
"Mom...the boy shouted back to teacher today"
i can see his unbelievable eyes
his voice shown that he was shocked
me: "what the teacher did to him? did he scold the boy?"
C : "NO Mom...with a normal voice...teacher said he will report to the boy's mom and teacher took picture of him and send it to his mom"
the FIFTH day
another report...
C: "Mom the boy was crying today..."
me: "Why?"
..........listen to his interpretation of crying...............
C: "i don't know but maybe because teacher scold him yesterday"
he pause for a while and continue
C: "or maybe he was hungry...i never saw him eating anything"
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MOM IN ACTION
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that night i went to him and sitting down...relax...and ask him to repeat everything...
1st explanation *or i may say attempt*: to see his understanding and response
"Calv...not all kids been blessed with full time mom like you. Your have your mom at home every day every minute. cook a nice food for you, hug you when u fall down...hug you when you were sick...playing together with you...laughing together...we always hugging and kissing before sleep...those are precious"
. pause to see his response
. i can see he really taking it seriously
. then i continue
"but some kids...their mother have to work...their mom only back when it's dark...when they scared their mother were not there....when their sick the just crying coz nobody with them...then they become naughty because nobody care of them"
. this time i see him melted
. i can see his point of view changing
. from naughty boy to pity boy
Calvin: "so what can we do for him?"
....this is the time: SHOOT!
"making friend with him won't benefit you...you might end up being a naughty boy like him as well..."
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"but it doesn't mean you can't share the love with him"
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.... questions are welcome in this point!
Calvin: "but why?" *good!*
and i continue
me: "you have everything that every kids needs but not him...especially money...you are a good observer, Calv!...you saw him not eating the whole day...maybe he don't have money"
Calvin: "i can't give him money coz i don't have money"
*YES! he is right...we have stopped gave him money*
me: "but you can share your biscuit!"
C : "oh yeah!"
.....reinforcement is needed in this point
"ONCE a WHILE...you may go to him and share your snack...if he doesn't want then don't force...you can try the other day"
. once a while is the reinforcement to send a message share doesn't mean friends...in this point!!!
C: "Yes Mom...i think we can do that"
. he include ME in his action *hahahahahaha*
the FOLLOWING day
C : "Mom...i couldn't find him during the recess time...he was running around the school so i went to library"
me: "it's OK you can try the other day"
*i'm so happy that he making effort on it*
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. bully is serious!!!
but
. Calvin have stepped out of the bully circle
. making a good friend with another kids
together
. we want to learn: HOW TO OVERCOME BULLY WITH LOVE
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i don't know where we do go from this point
i believe Holy Spirit will guide us along the way
please remember us in your pray ^.^
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