Learn from Vincent Billy's case, I found a good article for parents
Vincent Billy was a bright and smart kid that committed suicide when he failed on his final project in university
by. Mrs Elly Risman
(Senior Psychologist and Consultant, University of Indonesia)
We never know...
what kind of the world that our children will face in the future, then teach and train them to solve their own problem now
Do not pray all roles for them...
You are NOT a member of RESCUE TEAM!
Your children are not in danger
NO S.O.S signal
Do not always force yourselves to help and fix everything
#Children complain the toy puzzle cannot connected each other..."Let me help"
#The water bottle a little difficult to open "Come...Mommy do"
#Shoelace hard to tied "Here...Daddy tie for you"
#Oil sprinkled on that little hand "Come...Mommy wipe"
What will your children be?!
If help provided out of the storm
What happens when disaster really come?
Give the children opportunity to find their OWN solution before jump in and help them
#1 The ability to handle stress
#2 Solve the problem
#3 Find the Solution
...are the skilled that must be trained and learned by the children
...those skills are not just happened without any training
The ability to solve problems and survive in trouble times without giving up could have an impact for decades to come
Not only can make a person graduate from school
but also passed the test of the storm trough life and marriage
It is seems not important...
"what's wrong with helping my children?!"
If you immediately rush to save them from all the difficulties
They would become FRAGILE and WITHER
Hurt little bit, complain!
Fight a bit, as for a divorce!
Facing small problem, gone crazy!
IF you spend lots of time paying attention and money for their IQ
THEN put the same effort for their AQ
What is AQ?
According to Paul G. Stoltz
AQ is the intelligence in his face difficulties or obstacles and the ability to survive in a variety of life's difficulties and challenges experienced.
Would this intelligence more important than IQ to face daily problems?
the feeling of being able to passed the test is a an incredible pleasure
being able to solve the problem, ranging from simple to difficult will give confident to the children and make them believe that asking for help is the last option when things really out of their hands
LET your children go through difficulties in life
NO problem if child suffered from minor cuts,
a little cry
a little disappointment
a little bit late
get wet by the rain
HOLD your tongue, hands and heart from providing assistance
Teach them to HANDLE the frustration
If you are always a fairy godmother or guardian angel.
What happens if you are no longer breath again tomorrow?
your kids may follow you to the grave
It is hard not to intervene when looking at your own child in pain, grief and struggle
Moreover as parent, the first instinct is to protect our children
So train the children's AQ is a test for parents as well
Life is not easy, the problem will always be there and they must be able to survive
Many times we cannot avoid passing through the rain, storm and difficulties in life
Your action now gives them future!